Sometimes the problem is not that you are overreacting. It’s that you have been pulled into a conflict that was never yours in the first place. And if you don’t see that clearly, you will keep doing what most people do in these situations: blaming your sensitivity, your anger, your overthinking, your inability to let … Read more
Last Friday I answered a subscriber’s question about anger, rumination, and unfairness inside a family dynamic. If you didn’t read that email, here’s the short version: someone behaves badly, someone else avoids dealing with it and the person in the middle ends up tense, angry, and mentally trapped in the scene. Now, that reaction is … Read more
Today I’m answering the last of the subscriber questions we collected a while ago. As I said at the time, I was going to answer the questions that were most likely to sting and bother everyone, and whose answers would be the most useful. Well, this is a question that goes straight to a pain … Read more