Today I would like to talk about and share with you an incredible quote that I came across some time ago. Here:
‘Let there be nothing I can’t admit to myself about myself’
– Jenna Zoe, human design expert
Now, what is the first thing that comes to mind when you read it? What do you think?
I don’t know the exact meaning that Jenna Zoe gives to this quote. But the magical thing about quotes is that we randomly stumble upon them, and in the best-case scenario, they could potentially be life-changing. In normal cases, you might find the quote interesting and two seconds later, you move on with your life.
But we are not interested in normal case scenarios here. Let’s focus on the life-changing ones.
When you resonate so much with a quote, regardless of the source, you will have what Oprah might call an ‘aha moment’. This quote speaks to you as if it knew your most dark and hidden secrets, and not only that, provides you with the exact wisdom that you needed in that precise moment.
So, this is what happened to me with this quote.
Let there be nothing I can’t admit to myself about myself.
But, what does it really mean? Let’s break it down:
- Let there be no information about myself that I’m aware of, able to see and perceive,
- that I can’t recognise and admit to myself
- whether it’s positive or negative
- about myself: my behaviour, flaws, skills, thoughts, desires, etc.
At the end of the day, this, again, is about self-responsibility.
The big one.
The most essential ability that you need to develop to live a worthy and fulfilling life: self-responsibility.
For a person to be free, they have to be, first and foremost, responsible for themselves (that’s why children can’t be free, they are not able yet, but that’s a subject for another day).
This quote talks about being aware of yourself, of your own thoughts, actions, behaviour, tendencies, whether they are positive or not. But in this case, especially if they are negative.
Sometimes we dismiss our most ‘negative’ traits, such as laziness, lack of assertiveness, naivety, mistakes we make, etc. We just want to look to the other side. Pretend that X didn’t happen, that you didn’t take part in that particular thing that went wrong.
We even lie to ourselves: ‘no, this isn’t like that, I have nothing to do with X’, etc.
Perhaps we feel so shameful or we are being so hard on ourselves that we can’t even admit something happened and it was related to our doing.
But, we are not doing ourselves a favour by ignoring it. By doing this, we are letting go of the opportunity for us to learn, to integrate what happened, to grieve, and experience whatever reparation needs to take place.
I’m going to use a little example, so it’s easier to understand.
Let’s say I’m always saying yes to everything that others demand of me. I’m always willing to help even when I can’t. I’m always ready to attend whatever plan even if I don’t like it or I don’t really like the people attending. I’m always there for others, but never there for me.
What is it that I’m doing that contributes to this pattern?
Is there something about me that engages with the occurrence of the same situations?
In this example, what can I admit to myself about myself that makes this negative situation happen all the time?
Remember, despite the situation, what part or role am I playing so this movie keeps on repeating? Meaning, what is MY part (regardless of how big or small) of responsibility?
What are your thoughts?
Love,
Noemi
