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why impostor syndrome is ruining your life
You’re consumed by the famous impostor syndrome. Better known as plain old insecurity. That overwhelming feeling of not feeling ready for (insert your goal here___) Maybe you want to publish something. Maybe you want to apply for a better job. Maybe you want to raise your prices. Maybe you want to start showing your … Read more
how to chase your goals without destroying yourself
There’s a specific kind of suffering that comes from wanting something and not knowing when it will arrive. Not whether it will arrive, when. A project, a business, an investment, a romantic partner, a child, a specific result… When? This question can become a form of torture if you let it. Your mind doesn’t know … Read more
how to deal with other people’s drama without getting pulled in
Sometimes the problem is not that you are overreacting. It’s that you have been pulled into a conflict that was never yours in the first place. And if you don’t see that clearly, you will keep doing what most people do in these situations: blaming your sensitivity, your anger, your overthinking, your inability to let … Read more
why your strong sense of justice can turn against you
Last Friday I answered a subscriber’s question about anger, rumination, and unfairness inside a family dynamic. If you didn’t read that email, here’s the short version: someone behaves badly, someone else avoids dealing with it and the person in the middle ends up tense, angry, and mentally trapped in the scene. Now, that reaction is … Read more
this subscriber asks me a question about
Today I’m answering the last of the subscriber questions we collected a while ago. As I said at the time, I was going to answer the questions that were most likely to sting and bother everyone, and whose answers would be the most useful. Well, this is a question that goes straight to a pain … Read more