if a person doesn’t love themselves, they can’t love anyone
Low self-esteem doesn’t stop people loving, but it can turn love into fear, control, reassurance and dependency.
self-esteem
how to chase your goals without destroying yourself
There’s a specific kind of suffering that comes from wanting something and not knowing when it will arrive. Not whether it will arrive, when. A project, a business, an investment, a romantic partner, a child, a specific result… When? This question can become a form of torture if you let it. Your mind doesn’t know … Read more
if you can’t hear yourself, you’ll obey everyone else
Just last week I told you in the newsletter how important it is to learn to identify your emotions, and above all, to pay attention to them, because emotions are our internal compass. This is a harsh truth: It all goes downhill when we don’t know what we feel, and worse, what happens when we … Read more
how to overcome perfectionism and stop feeling never enough
People rarely realise how much of their suffering comes from a quiet internal pressure that never stops. The pressure to be good, to be competent, to be impressive, to be in control, to be unshakeable. The pressure to deliver more than you can realistically sustain. The pressure to avoid disappointing anyone, including yourself. Most people … Read more
why you keep getting stuck: the not so hidden forces shaping your choices
Most people believe their problems come from a lack of information. If they simply understood what was happening to them, they would act differently. They would stop returning to the same patterns, the same relationships, the same habits that drain their energy and distort their life. Knowledge seems like the missing piece. It promises clarity … Read more
When to let go
I’m sure you know somebody who is still trying to get their business to work after some 10 or 20 odd years. I’m sure you’ve at least heard of that actor/actress/waiter/waitress still waiting for that role to get them their breakthrough. I’m sure you know a person or two who’s trying to pass ‘those final … Read more