if a person doesn’t love themselves, they can’t love anyone
Low self-esteem doesn’t stop people loving, but it can turn love into fear, control, reassurance and dependency.
relationships
if they throw your past at you, that’s not love
This might save you from one of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships. In two minutes, you’ll understand something most couples never even realise until it’s too late. Let’s go. We talk a lot about vulnerability these days. So much that it has become a buzzword. Many use it as virtue signalling, pretending it’s … Read more
the one thing a healthy relationship will never do
There’s a strange contradiction at the heart of love. We say we want closeness. We long for intimacy. We talk about connection like it’s the ultimate goal. But we always forget one simple, brutal fact: To truly love someone is to hand them a weapon. You give them your trust. You give them your life … Read more
how to keep the spark alive in your relationship (part 2)
In the last email, we had a bit of a cry together about why desire, passion… eventually burns out in long-term relationships. Right. Wipe those tears away because, in this email, we’re going to look at some old-school tricks to help solve this problem. Not that you and your partner have this issue… God forbid … Read more
how to keep the spark alive in your relationship (part 1)
The eternal question: how do you keep desire alive in a long-term relationship? Love and desire don’t always go hand in hand. In fact, sometimes they seem like sworn enemies. Have you ever been in a long-term relationship where you love your partner deeply, yet desire seems to vanish as if commitment has suffocated it? … Read more
If they don’t get jealous, do they really love you?
We’ve all heard it before: “If your partner gets jealous, it’s because they love you.” Sounds romantic, right? As if jealousy itself were some kind of proof of deep devotion. But is it really? Now, really? Or is it actually a sign of something much darker, fear, insecurity, control? And not darker in a romantasy … Read more